Ground ZER0 in the "UNgay" Paradigm Shift!

+60% of all men experience some SameSex attractions. You know that +60% is NOT a "minority", -right?
G0YS is testosterone driven (unlike so many 'gaycentric' groups). Because we 'have a pair', we speak from the perspective of men who don't tolerate the lawless rantings of fools. Our philosophy is simple: "Love works no ill.", & "No victim; -No crime". If you can't wrap your brain around those principles, -then you're in the wrong place!

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What G0YS embrace is masculinity in it's purest forms.  Many G0YS are GAY, or (usually)-BI identified men (who might wear those labels IF they were not aware of the G0Y movement).  Many G0YS are STRAIGHT identified (involved in marriage or exclusive relationships with women) also - but have these deep feelings for masculine affection nonetheless (whether ever acted upon or not).  Many of these men have had 1 or more sexual encounters with other men (not anal) & lack the language to describe those feelings & relationships.  The term "gay" simply encloses too large a group & offensive associated stereotypes.  G0YS place friendships at the top of their proverbial "list".  Some of those friendships deepen to a level that is so intimate & personal that sexuality often becomes an element; -- & strong, invisible cords of love, respect & extreme-discretion cover what is an intensely personal thing.  The reputation of the flamboyance, promiscuity, filth & bizarre cross-culture of the term "gay" - is seen as an affront to g0y relationships. G0YS are not homo-phobic (as we readily admit that we are men who love masculinity).  Perhaps we're "PHREAK-O-PHOBIC".  We detest acts that degrade & disrespect masculinity; - & thereby diminish the man.  This is why we have adopted the term "G0Y" as opposed to "GAY" - & we offer no apology for our discretion in doing so. Also realizing that "GAY" is a slang, nebulous term (not a precisely defined word); -G0YS have chosen to form a separate group where "who we are" is tightly defined with an unmistakable term. Even if some people consider "G0YS" to be a subset of "GAY"; -We represent less than 5% of the "Gay Male" community -- while encompassing a much larger number of men who happen to have Same Gender Attractions (& may or may not have attractions for the other).  Using Kinsey's numbers to clarify: Gay's represent K-6's while G0YS encompass K-[1-6] men within behavioral constraints.  Because G0YS technically represent a much larger number of men than "gay"; -- it is actually inaccurate to consider us a subset of gay-male culture.

It's the Connection

Out of the research I've done on the Internet about everything "gay" - It's been my observation & experience that being "g0y" is about the deep connection between a couple of dudes. That connection begins as a friendship that gradually deepens to the point where defenses come down & inhibitions drop as a bond of powerful affection grows - often beside an appreciation of each guy's masculine traits & physique.

Love is a complex, wonderful language that expresses itself in many ways. Sharing property - such as living space, money or vehicles with another person makes a powerful statement. Sharing laughter, deep conversation & personal issues - likewise is often a strong step toward intimacy. Between a couple of men, reaching a point of trust where sharing touch, nakedness & mutual climax is the ultimate bond of intimacy between a couple of buds.

In my experience, there is a place in the heart of most men where they want affirmation from other strong, masculine men that affirms them as men & does not threaten their masculine core. Is this not exactly what sons want from their fathers on a basic emotional level? Likewise, guys shun 'sissy-bois' because sissies do not affirm a joint sense of masculinity. Aggressive boys fight & aggressive bois phuck - - all done for masculine affirmation. But, that affirmation is one of outward roughness & shunning of external perceptions of weakness.

And what is the emotional reaction when one tough guy makes it clear that he values the other guy as much - even more than himself? How does the man feel who realizes that his friend will not raise a hand against him in conflict because his friend values him more as a person than his right to 'exact vengeance'?

I think we're beginning to uncover the difference in the feelings between the depths of masculinity vs. the petty vindictiveness of effeminate thoughts, acts & lifestyles of the cowardly. Being g0y is about the deep connection. Being g0y is about loving the wholeness of the other guy so much that the barrier to touch, closeness & emotional intimacy dissolve.

It is a deeply intimate & private thing - never to be lauded or flaunted. Being g0y is a mindset that says (often nonverbally) "Although I am a guy with an arsenal of assault weaponry as close as my fists, -- I value you so much that I want to make you feel good - & feel accepted by me - a peer." It says, "As a guy, being naked makes me vulnerable - but I trust you to be so with you.". It says, "As a guy, I know that being touched like this has great meaning & feels very good when done in proper context & with total respect; - & because I have such feelings toward you - I enjoy touching you in this way because I accept you totally & want to make you feel very good when near me." It says, "I accept you without reservation - from your embrace - to your hardened penis that is expressing your mutual feelings as it frantically disgorges the evidence of your reciprocated appreciation - as mine answers in kind.". It says, "Relax into my hug & into the afterglow's peace - with no anxiety, or fear - because you are loved & accepted as the virile guy you are; - And I affirm you because I am likewise, such a guy." It says: "I will never show other's your weaknesses or do anything that puts you in the light of compromise. I value the secret depths of our friendship so much that only with mutual consent would I ever disclose them."

Because this is the heart of being g0y - it is why the "gAy" community is virtually unaware of our presence & society does not comprehend our number. G0Y is about the "connection". It is about the sacred trust of love between guys who show their soft-undersides to each other in a paradigm of "being tough".

This is what men want & why so many who are in this group have come here. This is the focus of what so many guys write to me about. This is what is missing from the visage of the "gAy male community" as it thrusts it's arse into everyone's face.

We are the g0ys. The distinction is self-evident & if you knew who was among our numbers ... you'd be astonished!

 Mouse-over the chart below. 

What's a G0Y?
Short Version
It comes up in chat rooms and conversations more & more: "That G0Y thing."  Everybody wants to comment without anyone seeming to actually read the website ... so, I've put this page up to TRY to explain (once again) what a g0y is:

G0YS (Spelled with a ZER0) are guys who find men physically & emotionally attractive, but (for whatever reason) are offended with the stigmas that currently define the 'gay community' in the public psyche.  G0YS recognize that the prominent facets of the "gay-male" community tend to embrace every gender-bending act, fetish & affectation; --And include those things in the general specter of the image that "gay" projects publicly.  The easiest to observe example is the commonly used acronym "GLIT" (sometimes "GLIB") meaning Gay, Lesbian, Intersexed, Transgendered (or BiSexual).  The fact that "GAY" is grouped with "Intersexed & Transgendered" is evidence to our primary point showing what the term "GAY" has morphed into.  G0YS reject those associations completely & consider it a form of gender-prejudice against men who love men. 

Behaviorally: Anal-sex is innately shunned by g0ys - as it represents the ultimate form of sexual disrespect whether male/male or male/female.  Other distasteful stereotypes include (but are not limited to): Effeminate behavior, extreme passivity (like cowardice) & drag.  G0YS don't call other men "girl", "bitch", "queen", etc.  You probably get the idea.

G0YS also reject (due to well developed theology), the lax & lazy prejudices that have arisen in conservative fundamentalist circles against all same-gender sexuality.  In Christian circles, this travesty has arisen due to the extremely sloppy exegesis (& outfight fraud) of (6) verses of Scripture, w. a total failure to rightfully divide the Word.  This becomes quite apparent when the theme of the New Testament is held up as a standard, & these anti same-gender teachings are examined in light of that theme. Very briefly, Romans chapter (1) is a scathing commentary exposing temple prostitution & Anal-sex (Women w. men, & men w. men; -- N0T what is called 'homo-sex').  This is made very clear by other writings of Saul/Paul himself, & a warning from Peter about those who would misinterpret Paul's writings.  Paul writes that those who did these things received within themselves the due penalty for their perverse behavior - & that penalty was death.  Likewise, G0YS point out that Anal-Sex is the mechanism for the EXPLOSIVE SPREAD of Sexually Transmitted Diseases over the globe - many deadly.  The anus is not a sexual organ (genital) & treating it as such violates Moses' command "Not to bear false witness".  Scripture teaches that one of the very foundations of the faith involves "repentance from acts that lead to death".   G0YS believe that changing the meaning of the Romans (1) from being against anal-sex, to a focus on (& against) 'homo-sex', -simultaneously adds & deletes from the canon of Scripture; & carries the ultimate penalty for perverting the gospel.

The perversion of the text has led to the phenomena called the "Ex-Gay" ministry - which is an attempt by men to "fix" peoples sexual orientation.   Ex-gay programs are a mockery of the gospel & an accusation of the renewing power of God's Spirit.  Paul called such teachings "other gospels" & said that as far as he was concerned, the leaders of such movements were eternally condemned! Strong language! Caveat! See Galatians (ALL; & examine 3:28 carefully)
Why 'G0Y' -- spelled with a ZER0? What's up with that? Because the g0y movement was created as a departure from stereotype; -- A term was needed that had some meaning behind it, while being simple enough for people to remember; -- plus stir some curiosity. Because the movement also was designed to eviscerate abusive religion (primarily fundamentalism in it's many forms), the term needed to have foundations in Scripture as well (Because there are now "gAy affirming churches", the term needed to confront sloppy theology that supports "everything gAy" -- including Anal). How was this all accomplished? Read on...

Ancient Hebrew, (the language the Torah & rest of the Old Testament was written in), - is an amazing language. In its original written form, it has no vowels. They are inferred. If we were to adopt the same technique for English, the words:
gAy
gUy
gOy (In Hebrew, the term "goy" applies to a non-Hebrew person -- foreign national)
... would all be spelled: G Y; & the reader would place the vowel upon speaking based on context. Well, since English is NOT Hebrew, people might not "get it". However, something else also came to light ... and that was the fact that the Apostle Paul wrote that G0D chose the "thing which is N0T" to "NULLIFY things which are". He basically explained that G0D used the power of a ZER0 to establish His new covenant by canceling out the written code that stood in opposition to us. This worked out well, because by inserting a '0' between the 'G_Y', - the "A" in "GAY" was essentially zeroed out (see ... N0 Anal) and the new term formed was 3 characters & looks like it should be pronounced "goy" (a Hebrew term that rhymes with "toy" & fits context perfectly) However, this new term is not really designed to be spoken, but rather EXPLAINED. So you see, this new term has some intellectual backing & some rich history!     

Friends hug.  Best friends hug - longer. 

- A Tribute to 3000+ Years of G0Ys

I've known you for a while; -- grown accustomed to your smile...
And miss you when you're gone for long.
Whether at the gym or job, - with your family or the mob
(of people who you greet over the miles)

I've grown accustomed to your presence; -- & to me it's just like incense...
The soft sound of your deep voice - it makes me long;
Makes my heart beat even harder as I listen to your laughter;
That spring of joy within you is my song.

But the thing I long for most is the time we spend alone,
As we speak of how the week has gone - sometimes over the phone.
And when your shadow gently graces the doorway of my home,
I look forward to the heart-felt hug I'll give you - till you groan.

Shoes come off; - now come inside; - What's mine is your's to loan,
The food is fresh, the cupboards friendly (the dog stays at his bone.)

And as we eat, we shoot the breeze - & comment on the game,
That plays on TV in the background; - We shout when points are made.

And as the clock hands circle: round, - & round & round, some more;
We'll slowly wander to the bedroom & clothes will cover floor.

The sheets are clean & fresh & cool -- And welcoming your warmness;
Considering the future near - gives rise to certain stiffness...
And as we slide across their spance - we slowly come to our embrace;
Snuggling up - pecs to pecs - we mingle shadows - face to face.

You're hunky, warm & slightly furry, and in this haze my vision's blurry,
But my hands are speaking for my eyes as I gently stroke your muscle lines.

Your tummy breathing - abs are heaving; A pounding heart that speaks no lies;
Your hardened stiffness firmly pulses & teases memories of lover's cries.

And as you cuddle with your double - & trickle sweat from pits & thighs,
With my tongue I'll savor - all your flavor; - (Do you feel the passion in my eyes?)

It comes too soon - your sweat does glisten; your embrace it tightens; -- Your body stiffens;
Your muscles crawl beneath my hands as your posture shifts to satiate glands

And as your breathing starts to stress - into a passion'd sigh,
I know full well your straining lungs will next let out a cry.
Your toes are curled, your back it arches & as you catch a breath:
I'll cuddle you as a lover does - help thru this little death...

A perfect lover is a mirror, & passions are reflected back;
So timing keeps in harmony's wake the responses sought to tighten slack.
As to your groin: It's full of fire -- I know this too; -- My passion's higher;
I'm right here with you - in this love feast; With your first volley  - I find release...

Your gentle weight - & quivering muscles; Quite a virile pair;
Your tightened belly, hardened globes & lungs that crush the air,
Manly hotness - splattering groins; -- Your watering eyes cry not.
Frantic intensity spilling from loins; -- It's the climax of our plot.

But above this frenzy is a passionate hug - (that embodies your trust) - as your response speaks of  love.
And as we resolve - (coming down from on high) - that warm hug remains that unites you & I.

- Esident

HUGS - The Poem Explained for victims of public school:

Original Verse Expanded
I've known you for a while; -- grown accustomed to your smile...
And miss you when you're gone for long.
Whether at the gym or job, - with your family or the mob
(of people who you greet over the miles)		 This friendship has been developing for a long time.  The author knows the features of the subject very well & has developed an emotional attachment & need to be with him - feeling it whether they are close by or on the road.
I've grown accustomed to your presence; -- & to me it's just like incense...
The soft sound of your deep voice - it makes me long;
... Makes my heart beat harder as I listen to your laughter;
That spring of joy within you is my song.		 The use of incense has several implications.  Incense is a smell well known - as if even the smell of the subject is known to the author.  It is also commonly used in religious settings - giving a deeper meaning to the presence of the subject.  The voice & laughter of the subject are like music to the ears of the author.
But the thing I long for most is the time we spend alone,
As we speak of how the week has gone - sometimes over the phone.
And when your shadow gently graces the doorway of my home,
I look forward to the heart-felt hug I'll give you - till you groan. 		Private time one-on-one is looked forward to the most -- even if it's on the phone.  Intimacy is getting to know the other by conversation.  When the subject does stop by, the author is aware of even his shadow & a warm firm passionate hug is exchanged that is forceful enough to squeeze a groan out of the subject.
Shoes come off; - now come inside; - What's mine is your's to loan,
The food is fresh, the cupboards friendly (the dog stays at his bone.)		 Make yourself comfortable.  My possessions are as if they were yours.  Fresh food implies: prepared now.  Subject knows what's in cupboards; & the dog knows him.
And as we eat, we shoot the breeze - & comment on the game,
That plays on TV in the background; - We shout when points are made.		 They share common interests & converse fluidly.    "Shout" instead of "cheer" implies they may support different teams - which is ok.  They are individuals.
And as the clock hands circle: round, - & round & round, some more;
We'll slowly wander to the bedroom & clothes will cover floor.		 Although seeming casual, the author writes that he observes 3+ hours pass before finally heading off to bed with the subject.  Strewn clothes indicate some anxiety.
The sheets are clean & fresh & cool -- And welcoming your warmness;
Considering the future near - gives rise to certain stiffness...
And as we slide across their spance - we slowly come to our embrace;
Snuggling up - pecs to pecs - we mingle shadows - face to face.		 The bed is prepared beforehand & the contrast between cool sheets & the subject's warmness relays the author's awareness - which he tells produces an erection in anticipation.  Sliding across the sheets, they wrap up in each other - face to face & passionately rub beard-stubble while snuggling.
You're hunky, warm & slightly furry, and in this haze my vision's blurry,
But my hands are speaking for my eyes as I gently stroke your muscle lines.		 The author describes the feel of being cuddled up with the subject.  The 'haze' he mentions might be the overwhelming effect of being with the subject.
Your tummy breathing - abs are heaving; A pounding heart that speaks no lies;
Your hardened stiffness firmly pulses & teases memories of lover's cries.		 The author describes the physical responses of the subject & knows he is excited because of his pounding heart.  His erection brings some erotic memories to mind.
And as you cuddle with your double - & trickle sweat from pits & thighs,
With my tongue I'll savor - all your flavor; - (Do you feel the passion in my eyes?)		 cuddle w. double: This phrase is used to suggest that they are very much alike. The author comments that even his eyes speak of the passion between them.
It comes too soon - your sweat does glisten; your embrace it tightens; -- Your body stiffens;
Your muscles crawl beneath my hands as your posture shifts to satiate glands		 The author says that the climax is too soon - probably because such passion never seems to last long enough.  He describes the subject's body at ejaculatory inevitability.
And as your breathing starts to stress - into a passion'd sigh,
I know full well your straining lungs will next let out a cry.
Your toes are curled, your back it arches & as you catch a breath:
I'll cuddle you as a lover does - help thru this little death...		 He notes the breathing pattern of the subject & knows him so well that he predicts the next breath will be a passionate cry.  Without seeing, he also know the subject's toes curl when he gets to this feeling - reinforcing that they are very familiar with each other.  The term "orgasm" is French for "little death".
A perfect lover is a mirror, & passions are reflected back;
So timing keeps in harmony's wake the responses sought to tighten slack.
As to your groin: It's full of fire -- I know this too; -- My passion's higher;
I'm right here with you - in this love feast; With your first volley  - I find release...		 Perfect mirror - passions reflected: This means that each lover gives feedback to the reactions of the other.  Harmony is a musical term describing notes played in sync. The message is that the author is aware of the subject's state of extreme passion & it has caused him to "sync" in harmony so they will climax together.
Your gentle weight - & quivering muscles; Quite a virile pair;
Your tightened belly, hardened globes & lungs that crush the air,
Manly hotness - splattering groins; -- Your watering eyes cry not.
Frantic intensity spilling from loins; -- It's the climax of our plot.		 Weight & muscles.  Are they the "pair" or is this a play on words? This stiff muscular body of the subject in this state even compresses the air in his lungs.  Manly hotness/ splattering - are hints of an intense ejaculation - so hard it makes the subject's eyes water. Frantic intensity / loins - hints that the sexual release was long coming.
But above this frenzy is a passionate hug - (that embodies your trust) - as your response speaks of  love. And as we resolve - (coming down from on high) - that warm hug remains that unites you & I. More so than the passion'd frenzy of their orgasm, the author notes that he is aware of the passionate hug - so trusting & speaking of love (even after climax).  And, as they enter resolution of the climax, the hug is the constant thing that reminds the author most of his relationship with the subject.