Most men who have grave fears about the sexuality of the children have received those fears in the form of false evidence appearing real. There are (2) groups responsible for this "false evidence".
To be delivered from fear into the peace that is the truth, - is to realize that both groups are vile liars, and that neither you nor your children need not be the object of their messages. Both groups are preoccupied with STD's -like AIDS & their root messages connect AIDS (etc.) with sexuality. Once you realize the TRUTH - that certain behaviors are key links to certain STD's -- then seeing thru the lies becomes much easier. Generally, g0ys don't get Sexually Transmitted Diseases. Hello. That fact is a massive wake-up-call. G0YS don't get STD's because we avoid the specific behaviors that are most likely to spread them, -& we avoid people who promote those 'behaviors' as being acceptable 'alternative lifestyles" (because they're N0T)!.
As a parent, you can't control your kids sexuality. You can, however ingrain a sense of ethics that will reject perilous behaviors & fetishes when offered them. Those inclinations will greatly affect who your kid chooses as his peer group -& this is highly important.
"Bring up a child in the way he should go & when he is older, he will not depart from it." - Solomon
What's important to realize is the same thing as said in the "Serenity Prayer". "To accept the things I can't change.". You can't change your child's sexuality. It's determined by a complex pattern of neurons shaped by the winds of nature. You can't change it any more than you can change your kid's hair color with anything more than superficial dye. It is this point that Conservative fundamentalists commit a gross fraud upon --claiming to "change sexuality" when all they do is "make a red-head look like a brunette", -or force the lefty to use his right hand. Years of research prove that this sort of "change" isn't any more possible than turning a leopard into a cougar by simply painting it.
But, pushing back the lies of the extreme left & reicht; -- just because Jr. like guys (/too), it doesn't follow that he'll behave in ways stereotyped by "GAY" spokesmen. The fact is that most guys who like guys have no external behavioral manifestations that would hint of it. Those actions that are "camp" (stereotype) or dangerous (reckless sexual behaviors) are generally learned by bad associations with ignorant or unethical peers. This is why it's important that you not let the lies & threats of either group (left or reicht), -come between you & your kid.
Because what it really comes down to can be summarized by the following visualizations (with the help of your memory). Look back at your teenage years -- when you were out with friends - probably driving around or socializing. Consider your peer group & then ask: What part of my peer group would I want my kid to take on the attributes of? Because I don't know everything about everyone's peers -- I'll use my own because I had a good peer group. Mostly athletes & Kenny-Chesney types, -we weren't 'wild', dangerous or what most people would consider reckless. And me, -I was the guy who watched the big picture & never let down my guard regarding the safety of my friends.
So think: Who do you want for your kid's peers?
When your kid discovers his own sexuality has an M2M component: who'd you rather see him hanging out with? Guys who get their sexucation from the G00GLE'N "gay sex", -0r guys who are g0ys? See, I've been with a number of guys in my lifetime ,--but never saw any guy as a 'score'. Friendship & the responsibility of it was always at the core of my relationship-needs. Loving a buddy always involved sharing of myself & resources way beyond what went on in private. It felt good to have the phone ring & be able to help. And, yes - I've also coaxed a number of them through some intense orgasms as well as a being a "real- buddy" to talk about anything with. I've stood as the "Best man" at a number of my bud's weddings. I've helped provide for buddy's education. A friend accidentally smashed up my car & I took it in stride. I've lent a number money & let is slide when I didn't get paid back. I've driven long distances on several occasions to pick up buddies in the hospital & then given them a place to stay while they recovered. I've never treated any guy like a bitch & I've never given or gotten an STD from any guy I was tender on. It is my belief that these friendships constitute the fullness of what being a guy can consist of without anyone surrendering a hint of his masculine ethos in feigning to be a faux-female.
You can take steps to help your kid build the right peer groups. It probably doesn't start with "public education" (hint -hint). I went to a private (secular) school --but I had a very high consciousness of appropriate - due mostly to good friends & neighbors who "walked the walk." And, because of the mantra that gay-sex=analsex, --I presumed that the problem was with anal (which made perfect sense to me & didn't cause a check in my conscience -because I myself considered analsex a degrading & dirty act; -an opinion I formed completely independently & instinctually). I later learned that many "Christian churches" expanded "gay-sex as=any same-sex contact" which seemed absurd considering what I knew what going on between guys in school & church! Most of the guys I shared a buddy-cuddle with were church-goers, too! Scandalous - until it's not. And they were solid, regular guys who generally wanted to do the right thing & generally only needed a constant source of encouragement to do it. I was the only voice that I am aware of who wasn't telling them that they "couldn't eat from any of the trees in the garden". I simply recognized a very real masculine need & provide a supportive, accepting atmosphere for guys to get genital relief in the context of intense friendship-building. And it was the peak of male bonding; -of that I have no doubt.
If you're a man concerned that you have set a divisive tone in your own household, --there are some strategies you can take to set the right tone. The g0ys men's movement is a great place to start. When the time is right, you can interject into conversation that you found out that there is a group set apart from the "gay thing" that you can respect. And then you mention g0ys - spelled with a zer0.
One I like particularly goes like this: "Ya know, -Although I think that Arse-fukkers are just about morally-bankrupt; --A guy I've known for years told me there is a group of guys into guys - that sets itself apart from all that sh1t. They're called g0ys -spelled with a zer0. I can respect a group that doesn't disrespect men or advocate that anyone should tolerate dirty, degrading, sh1tplay as a so-called lifestyle."
Good follow up lines are: "In a series of polls, it turned out than about 70% of the population feels the same way.", -or: "It turns out that lots of GAYS don't like G0YS, --but about 70% of the population polled think the g0ys-thing is a whole lot more respectable.", -or: "Guys into that g0ys-thing claim that every guy was a g0y in Greece & Sparta culture about 3000 years ago. Heck - ASSFukk'n was even illegal!"
Once those who know you come to realize that you're g0y-friendly, while gAy-intolerant, -it will provide the framing for conversation & subtly-directed self-discovery. The g0y-men's movement takes away the behavioral monopoly the "gAy male community" claims on M2M intimacy. Suddenly, it's a noble thing to love your buddy from feet to follicles, -while seeing the arse-fukk in proper context: as an act of disrespect, violence or dirty-disregard for health & welfare. Since statistically, +50% of men have had at least 1-g0y experience; -placing the term in your language of respect may deepen the friendships with guys you already know who have had g0y experiences. Being respected for who you really are means a tremendous amount to most people.
If the g0y in your house -happens to be a family member, --your casual acceptance will create a bridge in the relationship that will help steer that person in a direction that is fulfilling & part of a noble history, -as opposed to the morally-bankrupt counterfeit called "gay" that implies that the entire world of men who love men is composed of ass-fukkers. It's on par with asserting that all men who love women are rapists. Ass-fukkers scoff at comparisons like that, -but it's because their moral sense is so clouded that they don't recognize the ass-fukk for the capital-offense tort against humanity that it is. It takes a few more IQ points to understand why the act is on the moral-par as rape (often as a component of rape). Yet in the spreading of disease, the act has no equal: +5000% more pathogenic than all other sexual acts considered!
Rightfully dividing truth is one of man's highest callings & greatest missions. The g0ys movement is among the very 1st to separate what is demonstrably noble -from the vulgar, & establish affection for the former -while holding in contempt for ignoble, perilous & selfish acts that nonverbally accuse the worth of a man.
You cannot determine the affections of another. You can, however, encourage those affections be used in a noble way by setting apart the right way from the debased (and debased is determined by the results that impact the real world -- not some whacko message that tries to debase what is inherently harmless [I.E: eating meat on Fridays, etc.]).
Expressing respect for the g0ys paradigm leaves open an avenue for dialog; -- where as the person who rejects the notion of noble same gender affection, -has essentially cut himself off from anyone who may experience it (& those who experience it are about +63% of the population).
G0YS assert that it is possible to be naked without shame with other men; -without being compelled to be baptized into the "gAy cesspool".