'When people began to use the term "GAY", it primarily meant "Same-Sex-Attracted". G0YS have no issue with that original, simple meaning. However, over time, -the term has taken on lots of ASSociated-baggage as a result of stigmas from stereotypes - many aggressively & shamelessly promoted by the "GAY MALE COMMUNITY" itself 

It is one thing to be slurred by "outsiders"; -- However, the bulk of Gay-male stigmas are promoted as "gay-culture" from within the "gay-male demographic". When a group declares itself "anathema", what appeal to "tolerance" remains? None!

The current use of the term now brings a series of images to people's minds that generally have nothing to do with simple attractions (but are inseparably welded to the word in the public psyche). The use has become so distorted - that saying "gay-sex" is now generally presumed synonymous w. "anal-sex" - so much so that mass-media regularly interchanges the two. Not only does the "GAY COMMUNITY" seem "ok" with that stereotype, but actively promotes it -& many others.  
As a result, G0YS find the current use of the term "GAY" to be vulgar, & acutely repugnant to our ethos. Our disrespect of the term reflects our feelings about the contemporary implications (implied stigmas/stereotypes); -not a disdain for the original (simplistic) use. Please bear this in mind whenever you see any g0y commentary critical of "GAY".'   - Site Founder

See: Most men loathe the concept of being "arse-phuck'd"; - 0r being associated with "arse-phuckr's"!  Men who rape men use that form of assault for a reason: It is the ultimate statement of disrespect. (The original use of the word  "PHUCK" was a 'cuss' insinuating Penetration.  It is the verbal approximation of the nonverbal noises ASSociated with the term's meaning.   So then, the term "phuck-you" has a very specific meaning when spoken to a man!) 
Since the media, & now society, - generally ASSerts: That "All Same-Sex Affection = 'GAY'", & since the media asserts that "GAY*sex*" = "ANAL*sex*"; -- Most men logically connect the term "gay" with AnalSex - a complicit act - completely degrading & repulsive to masculinity; - something that they'd never do to their buddies!  
The real issue is not male/male intimacy; -- It's the dirty, disrespectful & even dangerous attitudes towards masculinity such as 'ANAL*SEX* & GenderPhuck; & most men want absolutely nothing to do with those forms of moral turpitude.  And, like it or not: Guys who wear the "gay" label make themselves guilty by ASSociation w. a group that loudly TOLERATES EVERY perversion under the sun -& calls that clusterphuck: "gay pride"!  We, however, believe that pride should be earned. 

G0YS are here to redeem Man to Man Intimacy & Dignity from the reputation given to it by a mob of decadent, arse-phuck'rz & the complicit mob they now claim to speak for! 

 Aren't you g0ys just being homo-phobic?

The term "phobic" comes from the root "PHOBIA" - meaning fear.  Being guys who are into guys, it seems fairly obvious that we're not afraid of guys into guys.  What g0ys see as a paramount issue is the SELF-INFLICTED-REPUTATION that has swallowed the gay community & the need to distance ourselves from that reputation. Why?  Stigma (See analogy to the right).  
For example, what does dressing in drag have to do with being a guy into guys?  Clothing is a cultural thing, so why do so many people associate cross dressing with "gay"?  In other words: If "gay" is merely about who a person is attracted to - as so many people blindly assert; -- then why make the connection with Drag, or other Intersexed behavior?  The glaring implications of this common association mindset are obvious.   The psychology of many "gAy" men into "drag" is a fixation on what is perceived to be feminine.  However, the fixation is more often about "form" than actual function.  This MISsPERCEPTION, -- that places "form" on a pedestal, - invariably leads to sexual expression that is likewise - more about form - than function: ANAL.  This is a psychosis - & an unhealthy, fetish-driven fantasy-life.  To reiterate: What does being a guy who is sexually interested in guys - have anything whatsoever to do with gender-bending in any way shape or form?  Answer: Absolutely nothing; - & g0ys find the mixing of the concepts to be offensive.  We are men who love men[.] It has nothing to do with the feminine.  Implying otherwise is simply a LIE. 
Human nature being what it is -- we don't expect many gAys (up to their collective arse-holes in lie-based fetish-fantasy), -to embrace what is g0y: Quite the opposite... And you know ... g0ys really don't care.

G0YS detest the concept of playing in another person's butt.  We're not the only group that feels this way;  And you'll notice I used the gender-neutral term "person", & not "guy", -- because whether male or female ... butt-play is a dangerous fetish.  Many like myself consider it immoral because the practice is the primary vector for STDs globally.   This point is made in several places on this site because the stigma around it is predominant in the public psyche, -- butt guys into the practice seem oblivious to that fact & exhibit a general callous disregard for the safety of themselves & others by their acceptance of such dangerous actions.  The language such guys use to address other guys into this fetish is likewise gender degrading: "Girl", "Bitch", "Queen", etc.  It's more evidence that there are elements in 'gAy' culture that deride masculinity, & do not know how to treat men as men in general.  One writer observed that the 'gAy male culture' seems schizophrenic: On the one hand idolizing hyper-masculinity, & on the other hand seeming preoccupied with 'drag'.   Bizarre role models result in bizarre group behavior -- hence the preoccupation with anal-fetishes.  However, just a great meal does not involve a bowl of shit for dessert; -- Neither does making love to another guy have anything to do with his anus.  G0YS are N0T under the influence of any delusion that might suggest that anal penetration might somehow equal "sex".  Penetration only equals sex with women & only when genital-to-genital; -- Never anal.  G0YS refuse to be ASSociated with a culture that is framed in the mind of the public as a bunch of shit-tainted, arse-phuckers.  We choose the term "G0Y" because we are men who reject all the 'baggage' ASSociated with "gAy" & the "gAy-male community".  G0YS find it grossly offensive.  Human nature being what it is -- I don't expect guys into anal-fetishes to embrace what is g0y: Quite the opposite... And you know ... g0ys really don't care what those with a hom0cidal feces fetish think.

There is a fundamental syllogistic fallacy (reasoning error) that can be described by following generalization: "Two separate categories are said to be connected because they share a common property."  That flaw in reasoning is promoted time & time again by people who insist that: because (2) groups (goy & gAy) share a common property (M2M sexuality), that they are connected (Ergo: Both "Gay"). 
G0YS insist that a common element doesn't make us any more part of the "GAY" community than Ice can be called Steam because both contain Water.  Philosophically, the fact that the term "gay" is nebulous (lacking a clear social definition), -constitutes a basis for the need for a distinction  -because today, many people (both from within & without the gay community) associate the term "gay" with forms of behavior that many people find morally reprehensible - even criminal.  The inability of the gay-community to police itself or set any standards within, constitutes a set of repugnant traits that constitute the basis for g0ys to make the distinction between "US" vs. "THEM".

Some people, (who cannot seem to understand our sense of incredulity & disgust about the reputation that "gay male" community has brought upon itself) accuse g0ys of being "self loathing" or words to that effect. So, once again - I'll clarify our position to those who make such assertions: We don't loathe ourselves. We loathe YOUR complicit arse.  If you don't understand the difference between "us" & "you", -I'm sure that there are available, -several great books for preschoolers with big colorful pictures that help explain the difference between those pronouns. 

So then: G0YS are not "phobic" at all.  It's a healthy aversion away from the group that calls itself "GAY" ("GAY" wanting to claim all same-sex affections as it's own, and then, coincidentally, submerge them all by ASSociation into a moral-cesspool of perilous-fetishes & genderphuck). Most men happen to strongly agree with g0ys on a gut level -whether or not they're open in admitting it.  If this is not you or you feel some need to defend "all things gay", then you're in the wrong place. Clear enough? Click here to exit this site...

The Experiment that has Been My Life:
^{(Editorial Contribution)} 

Blessed with above-average looks & a leadership personality, I've had a the opportunity to experience first hand what so many people won't admit happens among guys.  Since becoming sexually mature, I've realized that I bonded emotionally with other guys & I enjoy the physical aspect of close relationships.  I'm also attracted to an honest, masculine personality.  "Effeminate men" are a turn off -- no matter how good they look (If I wanted a girlie, I'd date one).  Playing sports like I did, I was always around "tough guys" & in the mind of most of my peers, -- I was one too.  My experiences with so-called "Straight guys" who turned out to be "g0y" are fairly numerous, & started early on.   Unlike the 'gay culture' portrayed in the media as all about "painted nails" & the next piece of tail, -- my relationships with my buds was never considered "casual" in my mind, & the level of friendship's bonds remains the deepest & most intimate even till this day. I consider them all members of my extended family & very few know the details of each of my relationships or the relationships' depths; - nor do I pry into their private lives.  As a contributor to the article on this site about "G0YDAR", I can  tell you that this is N0T about "seducing straight men".  It's about getting to know another guy so well he drops his guard & lets you discover that he was g0y all along.  I'm amazed at the number of "gAy" guys who will accuse the G0YDAR article of being a "manual to seduce straight men", -- and in the next breath insist that sexual orientation is "fixed".  They'll insist that you can't make a gay guy straight; -- while suggesting that the article on G0YDAR helps make straight guys "gAy"!  Hypocrites! What g0ys understand by instinct is that we don't embrace the stigmas surrounding what society says is "gay".  Most g0ys are in 'deep conservative cover' & many are ironically oblivious to the fact that there are many other people like them on the planet.  It can be a painful existence feeling  isolated -- believing that you have nobody on earth to talk to about how "you" feel.  0ur's is group that G0YDAR attempts to find.  Kinsey hit on the 'g0y' phenomenon when he compiled his statistics way back in the 1940's.  When you read the statistics about men who have had at least one erotic encounter with another guy --- that's the mere boundary of G0Y (& it substantially exceeds 50%)!  It's a complex psychology, but so many g0ys are afraid of the 'gAy label" that they feign to be "100% str8" -- that is until they meet another guy they are overwhelmed by.  Such guys are not living discretely for failing to announce their passions to the world.  They're simply g0y; -- & until this movement -simply haven't had a group philosophy they could identify with (a huge number of so-called 'bi-sexual' men are indeed, g0y - because the truth is: most men are, indeed, amBisexual).