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grew up in a neighborhood where boys having sex with boys was the rule,
on a regular to occasional basis. As an almost unbroken rule, the sex
involved mutual masturbation as well as oral sex. Anal sex was
generally non-existent. Given that this was a form of sexual
interaction involving boys who had the most sex with their best friends,
and lesser amounts of sex with lesser friends, male bonding factors
applied - as well as sexism . That is, we were all aware of what we were
to do with females, as some of us were doing - as in fucking - but
would never think of doing that [anal intercourse] to one's best friend,
considered to be one's equal.
I grew up in the 'sixties (aged 10 to 20 during this period) and began to
be homosexually active at least by the age of five ... By grade four [aged
10] I was one of the major actors in my Roman Catholic school, and I was
part of a 2-hour production known as The Passion ... By then I was a
sexual veteran, and was having sex with male friends on a regular basis.
Acting in The Passion produced revelations. As St. John, the Last
Supper scene required that I have my head on Jesus' chest, which became my
first (repeated) homo-sensual experience, with a boy (a year older than I)
who later became a hairdresser. I don't know if he is gay but, at
the time, he was more like a sissy (who also took piano lessons), and he
was not of the nature of the more 'rough' boys living in my working class
community. Nonetheless, he held an interest for me, probably because of
the feelings which were repeatedly awakened on stage, and these feelings
were yielding related thoughts during the Crucifixion scene. At the foot
of the cross, Richard was up there, with no more than a cloth around his
waist ... and I was thinking about how I would become friends with him -
to have sex with him, of course!
Sex, for me, was nothing more than a normal part of life, as it was
also part of almost every day - where most of the day was doing non-sexual
things with one's friends. I was therefore never sexually deprived
since a good number of males, especially including my best friends were
sexually available. We had sex in the woods, in garages, in abandoned
buildings, in homes if no one else was there, in snow houses, in parked
cars waiting to be fixed in a body shop, and in many other places. As a
rule, only the males - and not the females - in the community knew about
our sexual activities, which were so common that, if ever a male did
not want to have homo-sex, he was considered to be abnormal - but no one
put pressure on unwilling males to have sex, and we never behaved with
each other in such a way. This was sex with equality, as
well as with respect, as well as a male-bonding
phenomenon..." -
Pierre |
George Michael, the
legendary British pop star, can't seem to stay out of the news lately.
Unfortunately, the buzz doesn't surround his latest release, "An Easier
Affair." According to reports, Michael is keeping a low profile after
dispelling rumors of another public sex scandal. Rumors circulated after
British newspapers reported that he was photographed leaving the bushes of
a London Hampstead Heath park, where he allegedly had sex with a
"pot-bellied" Norman Kirtland. Michael and partner Kenny Goss denied the
allegations and still plan to marry later this year. In 1998, George
Michael was arrested by an undercover police officer after trying to have
sex in a California public restroom. Last February, Michael was also
arrested on suspicion of drug possession.
Whoa! What
planet did that
stuff on the left happen on!? By the time I was in 1st grade, "PhAG"
was a word used in every insult, slur & accusation of being like the loser
pictured above (Boy george -I think he's a phaggot...). The
connection between the terms PhAG & Butt-Plugger was firmly established &
the word "Homo-sexual" meant the same things. Nobody dared to openly get
close & chummy with a buddy because it didn't take much to get the "PhAG
commentary" going. "Tolerance" in K-5? Sure. And pigs fly too. Of course -
butt-pounding isn't an activity that deserves "tolerance" & everybody
knows it.
So, the dudes
I hooked up with knew that we needed to keep our private stuff -
private - unless we wanted to be compared with the rump rangers & the
likes of Boy-George (above). What
we were doing was so private that we thought we were the only guys into
each other who didn't want anything to do with the gay crowd - in general.
I really don't know how many dudes were hooking up like us - because
nobody was saying anything. We were confused - because we were into hott guys, but we couldn't stand phags! I mean, WHAT do you call
that! Well, nobody thought to come up with a different word for it - so I
guess we all kinda assumed we were proud closet cases that didn't do the
butt nasty. Of course - we were so freak'n respectful too. Lots of cuddl'n
& compliments & this feel'n like hav'n each others backs covered. Mess
with my bros & you're mess'n with me. No gender confusion krap or guys
being bitched; - never even entered our minds. We were like those guys in
the left frame; -just lots more secret.
As recent studies (from
Kinsey to current Internet polls) show, about +60% of the population
experiences varying amounts of Same Gender Attractions
(SGA). About 10% of those are exclusively SGA.
The monumental implication is that +50% of the population is
ambisexual (Bi). 1 out of every 2 people can swing both
ways! Recent studies about "homophobia" have shown that people
with the highest levels of homophobia are usually people with a
propensity to experience SGA. Many ask why. I believe
the reason for fear of SGA has several reasons - perhaps many ...
but only (3) are primary:
- Current widespread religious beliefs that
are critical & negative of all SGA.
- An innate fear of being sexually abused,
anally raped & effectively emasculated.
- A fear of being ostracized because of
stigmas connected to the above 2 factors (being labeled part of a socially
offensive group).
The male/male phenomenon currently expressing
itself as the g0y men's movement is actually nothing new (0nly
the name). Historical evidence clearly shows periods in time among certain
cultures such as the Greeks - when male/male intimacies were accepted & openly
celebrated. While the modern "gay male community" has made an appeal to
the Greeks as epitome of "gay"; - The fact that AnalSex was illegal in
ancient Greece effectively filters & excludes from 80%-90% of today's
current "gay male" culture! Ironic? I think so. Ancient Greece was clearly
"g0y"!
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